Co-Parenting During a Divorce
By Steve Bardol on June 25th, 2013 in blog, Divorce
Co-parenting during a divorce can be a difficult task. While it may be hard to maintain an ongoing partnership with your ex, co-parenting is the best way to ensure your children are receiving the best care possible. The following are some tips to help make the transition from Husband and Wife to Mom and Dad as smooth as possible.
1. Put your Child’s Feelings First
You may harbor some anger, resentment or hurt toward your ex. The idea of co-parenting with him or her may seem impossible, however, it is important to remember that these feelings do not belong in the co-parenting relationship. Drop-offs, discussions about schooling, or routine check-ins should be about the well-being of your children, not about the feelings between you and your ex spouse.
2. Communicate with your Ex Spouse
Communicating with your ex is a vital part of the co-parenting relationship. Even if you and your ex have disagreements in other areas of your lives, you should always attempt to be respectful and flexible when discussing the well-being of your children. Not only will this efficiently resolve any parenting issues, it will show your children that you and your ex spouse are willing to work as a team to raise them.
3. Parent as a Team
Children thrive on routine. The transition from one home to two will already be a big change for your children, so you and your ex spouse should work together to set similar expectations within both households. Establishing a transition schedule, a bedtime, and a discipline plan can help create continuity between the homes and can help your child with the adjustment.
For more information on what you can do to protect the well-being of your children during your divorce, contact your local St. Louis Divorce Attorney today.